I'm sure you've all seen those anti-bullying public service announcements(P.S.A.s) telling kids to tell the teacher if they're getting bullied, and while this is generally the best solution these P.S.A.s ether gloss over or completely ignore the true complexity of the issue. I for one have the dubious distinction of being a target of bullies and one who solved my bullying problems on my own and my experiance as such taught me that bullies tend to fall into one or more of the fallowing types.
The benevolent Bully: I know this sound like a oxymoron but it's not. these uncommon and honestly least harmful bullies feel its there Job to thicken the hide of there "victims" and they're generally pretty none violent about it usually not going any further then shoving. They are also one of the easiest to deal with simply standing up to them in any real way tends to do the job after all for them it was all about preparing you for the world. now that being said they're by no means harmless. When there "victims" are an introverted and/or emotionally vulnerable this can lead to a downwards spiral that can lead to ether there "victims" suicide or a Columbine scenario.
The head case: these unfortunate individuals are the most common type of bullies are themselves victims of some kind or another and bullying is a byproduct of whatever there own issue and the only real way to deal with them is to some how rectify the issue there having.
The sadist: These most problematic and thankfully rare bullies as the name suggests actually enjoy inflicting pain on there chosen victim and the only real way to deal with them is to make it so that they are ether unable to bully you or that it's easier to go find another unfortunate soul In the best case scenario is that they end up picking on a masochist and they form a unhealthy but stable symbiosis. The biggest problem with these bullies is that any attempted to stop them will only escalate things so it best to try and make the first attempt the last.
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